Reignite Your Connection

Private Coaching for Individuals and Couples Ready to Break the Cycle and Build Something Secure

Whether you're in a relationship that feels more like emotional coasting than connection…

Out of one and wondering what the hell just happened…

Or stuck in the loop of “Why does this keep happening to me?”—

You don’t have to keep doing this on your own.

The truth is, most of us were never taught how to do relationships—only how to perform, protect, or please.

And when the same conflict patterns show up (again and again), it’s easy to think you’re the problem.

You’re not.

Your nervous system is just running an old script.

As a licensed psychologist and relationship coach, I help individuals and couples break free from the patterns that keep them stuck—and build the kind of connection that lasts, even under stress.

This isn’t therapy. It’s forward-focused, attachment-informed coaching. And it works.

MEET psychologist and coach

hey, I'm Dr. Rachel Orleck

I work with partners who are done pretending everything’s fine. You’re showing up, doing the work, holding it together — but inside, something feels off. Disconnected. Like no matter how hard you try, it keeps looping back to the same fight, the same silence, the same ache.

That’s where I come in.

With over a decade of experience helping high-achieving couples shift deep-rooted patterns, I combine the science of attachment, nervous system regulation, and trauma-informed strategy to help you stop reacting — and start reconnecting.

Whether you’re starting this work on your own or with your partner, we begin with what’s in your control — and build from there.

And inside The Reclaiming Connection Society, I'll guide you through my signature RESET Method to help you shifty the cycle for good.

10+ years helping couples actually feel close again

Attachment-based, nervous-system-first coaching that cuts through the noise

Direct, compassionate coaching that gets to the root — without blame or shame

Is this you?

You feel like you keep picking the wrong partners—or showing up as the wrong version of yourself

You’re tired of the same fights, the same shutdowns, the same sense of “here we go again”

You’re craving connection, but you’re afraid you’ll lose yourself in the process

You want real tools, not more advice that falls apart in the heat of the moment

You're either navigating a relationship now, or doing the inner work to change your patterns before the next one

If any of that hits home, private coaching might be the thing that finally changes the game.

Why Private Coaching?

The Attachment Revolution membership gives you the map—

but private coaching puts you in the front seat with a personal guide.

Inside the membership, you’ll get powerful tools, nervous system rewiring strategies, and a supportive space to shift your patterns over time. It’s designed for sustainable growth with structure and flexibility.

But sometimes, you need more.

Private coaching is for when:

You’re navigating a high-stakes or emotionally raw situation and need real-time support
You’ve tried to implement the tools, but your cycle is too loud, fast, or complex to untangle alone
You want hyper-specific guidance for your relationship— or for how you show up in relationships
You’re craving accelerated growth with deeper accountability
You don’t just want to understand the pattern—you want to practice changing it in the moment

In coaching, we get in the ring with your patterns while they’re live—and build new wiring while the fire’s still burning.

With real-time feedback, direct accountability, and consistent support, you’ll move faster, go deeper, and stay on track—especially when things get messy.

What you'll get:

Private, personalized coaching sessions (virtual + fully tailored to you)
Between-session support (Voxer + email, Monday–Thursday) for real-time coaching
Attachment science meets nervous system rewiring—designed for real people in real relationships.
Custom practices, scripts, and tools for regulating in the moment
A practical path out of overwhelm, shutdown, or looping—and into something grounded, clear, and connected

Who this isn't for...

This work is powerful - but it's not for everyone.

It won't be the right fit if:

You want surface-level advice you can check off a list, but you're not ready to do the work of real rewiring.

You’re hoping I’ll change your partner for you.

You’re not open to exploring your own part in the dynamic

You’re navigating an active crisis (like abuse, untreated trauma, or addiction) that’s better served in a therapy container

You don’t need to be perfect—just willing.

If you're ready to show up honestly, stay with the hard moments, and practice something new, you’re in the right place.

What happens in a coaching series?

Once we decide to work together, here's what it looks like:

You'll get a link to schedule your first call.

We’ll use our first session to map your current patterns and name what’s keeping you stuck

You’ll get follow-up practices, out of session tools, and check-ins via Voxer/email

We’ll use your real-life experiences between sessions to guide our work—so it’s always relevant and actionable

Over time, you’ll build regulation, repair, and clarity from the inside out

I’ve sat with hundreds of clients as they try to love each other through shutdowns, spiral arguments, and deep disconnection.

I know this terrain intimately—not just from the research, but from the work I’ve done in my own body, in my own relationships.

That’s why I built this container. Because understanding isn’t enough. You need a place to practice secure connection.

What this work can change:

You go from walking on eggshells to speaking clearly—even when it’s hard
You stop spiraling after conflict and start recovering with more ease
You no longer feel like the only one doing the emotional work
You understand why you react—and what to do in the moment instead
You stop outsourcing your security—and start feeling grounded, with or without a partner.

Coaching Options

All packages are available for individuals (in or out of a relationship) or couples.

Conflict Reset Month

When you're needing a targeted breakthrough.

2 private 50-minute sessions
1 month of support (voxer + email, Monday through Thursday)
Clarity, insight, and the first real shift out of your stuck cycle

Investment:

$1400

Deep Connection Package

For clients ready to shift their patterns - and learn new ways of relating.

6 private 50-minute sessions
3 months of support (voxer + email, Monday through Thursday)
Nervous-system-informed coaching for building emotional safety, clarity, and connection