This quote from Brené Brown has followed me for years—because for a long time, I didn’t have it. Not really.
I’m Dr. Rachel Orleck, a relationship psychologist turned rebel coach and founder of The Attachment Revolution.
I help smart, highly capable people (and the people who love them) repair the hidden breaks in connection—so love stops feeling like a battle between self-protection and being truly seen.
I created this space because traditional advice left too many of us trying to think our way to love... while our nervous systems were screaming something different.
(If that sounds familiar—you’re in the right place.)
For over a decade, I’ve helped people navigate the most vulnerable parts of being human—how we protect, disconnect, and reach for each other in love.
I hold a doctorate in clinical psychology and spent years as a certified couples therapist, working with partners caught in shutdown cycles, reactivity, and emotional overwhelm.
That work laid the foundation for everything I do now.
But I wanted a space with more flexibility— and more impact.
A way to help high-achieving, emotionally intelligent people turn insight into action and build connection that holds under real stress.
That’s why I created The Attachment Revolution.
This work blends attachment science, nervous system regulation, and trauma-informed strategy—without the constraints of the therapy room.
It’s a space for real-time integration - where insight becomes lived experience.
I work with people who are insightful but still reactive… thoughtful but still guarded… connected but still lonely.
And I help them understand what’s happening in their body, their cycles, and their patterns—so they can stop spiraling and start reconnecting in the moments that matter most.
10+ years of experience helping people untangle stuck relational patterns
Clinical depth delivered in a coaching space where change can move faster and go deeper
A nervous-system-first approach that transforms how you relate, not just how you think
No emotional bypassing. No partner-blaming. Just grounded tools for lasting change
That what keeps us stuck isn’t logic.
It’s our wiring.
We’re all born wired for connection.
But life teaches us to disconnect.
The stories we internalize growing up—about safety, vulnerability, and love—don’t just live in our heads. They live in our nervous systems. And when relationships start to feel threatening, those old protective strategies kick in fast.
That’s what I call the Connection Breach—the split between the love we long for… and the ways we’ve learned to survive it.
Through attachment science, trauma-informed work, and a whole lot of nervous system repair, I’ve helped hundreds of individuals and couples stop the same old fight—and find their way back to each other.
And yes… I used those same tools to change my story too.
Today, I’m married to a partner I can be fully myself with—no masks, no shrinking.
We’ve been through fertility struggles, parenting a toddler, real-life stress—and we still feel like a team.
I was a licensed psychologist running a full private practice, doing the work I’d trained over a decade for. But even as I helped couples repair their relationships, I felt a growing pull to do it differently—to make it more accessible, less clinical, and more human. I didn’t want to be limited by state lines or insurance panels. I wanted to start a movement.
A community where people can finally understand their patterns, regulate their nervous systems, and change how they show up in love—not just in theory, but in practice. This is about giving people tools that work outside the therapy room. Tools I wish I’d had years ago, before I burned myself out trying to be the perfect partner or “fix” my relationships by doing more.
This isn’t about abandoning therapy—it’s about expanding what’s possible for healing, growth, and connection.
I’m a total sucker for detective dramas. Give me a complex case, emotional backstory, and brooding lead? I’m in.
I can cook a 5-course meal without breaking a sweat—and make it look like I didn’t use every pan in the kitchen (even if I did).
I drink my cocktails like I handle my relationships: strong, intentional, and with just the right twist. Old Fashioned, always.
After a long infertility journey (and a lot of hormones, heartbreak, and hope), I became a mom. We’re now a “one and won” family—something I never expected to say, but it feels right for us.
Parenting has humbled me in every possible way. Case in point: the time I tried to get my toddler excited about potty learning by letting him wear his brand new truck underwear. Within two minutes? He proudly squatted and pooped directly into them. 🚒💩
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